Monday, January 11, 2010

How Do You Keep the Faith? | The BridgeMaker

How Do You Keep the Faith? | The BridgeMaker


How Do You Keep the Faith?

Posted: 11 Jan 2010 03:11 AM PST

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Faith is a knowledge within the heart, beyond the reach of proof. - Kahlil Gibran

Article written by Alex Blackwell. Connect with me on Facebook.

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The first decade of this century has been challenging. Terrorists raised our awareness of evil, and fear, to a place few of us could have ever imagined. Our world will never be the same again, or at least our feelings and sense of comfort and security in it.

An economic crisis brought recession and real financial hardship to practically everyone. Many were faced with losing their jobs and most of us had to manage through shrinking family budgets because of rising inflation and bank loans that exploded right in front of us.

At times the first decade of this century has been more than just challenging – it has been difficult and sometimes downright grim.

The past ten years have tested our resolve, patience and courage. Our faith has also been tested, but when I look into the faces of strangers, co-workers, friends and family I still see hope and I see some faith left in this world.

There is a sense I get from others that suggests "everything will be OK." These people have not lost their faith, and I'm holding on to mine with both hands.

So, how do you keep the faith?

I'm starting a new project entitled A Time for Faith and I would be honored if you were a part of it. Please consider sharing how you keep your faith in difficult times. You may answer this question by contacting me in the following ways. Also, if you are willing to be interviewed for this project, please let me know that, too:

When leaving your answer, feel free to share a story that exemplifies your faith commitment. In addition to your strong faith, you may also discuss your commitment to hope, love, strength, trust and grace.

Thank you in advance for your support and participation. Look for details about A Time for Faith soon.

Blessings for a peaceful 2010,

Alex

Hay House, Inc.

How Do You Keep the Faith?


Friday, January 8, 2010

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Why Unitasking Might Seem as Challenging as Unicycling | The BridgeMaker

Why Unitasking Might Seem as Challenging as Unicycling | The BridgeMaker


Why Unitasking Might Seem as Challenging as Unicycling

Posted: 07 Jan 2010 10:16 AM PST

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There is time enough for everything in the course of the day, if you do but one thing at once, but there is not time enough in the year, if you will do two things at a time.. - Lord Chesterfield

Article written by BridgeMaker contributor Ali Hale. Please visit her at Aliventures.com.

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For years, the buzz-word has been "multitask". In our have-it-all, have-it-now world, everyone's encouraging us to juggle three tasks at once. Our bosses and colleagues expect us to be constantly available by email and phone – but they're also expecting that hefty report finished by close of businness on Friday. If we have kids, we want to play with them – but we also need to get the laundry and the dishes and the other chores done.

Modern technology encourages us to multitask frantically. Tabbed browsers, computers with ever-increasing processor power, social websites which fracture our attention, emails which arrive on our mobile … all of this drags us into a whirl of a world where it's hard to stop and breathe.

The Lure of Multitasking

I'm as guilty as anyone. I'll open a new browser window because I'm impatient waiting half a dozen seconds for a page to load. I often find myself on Twitter or in my email when I'm supposed to be focusing on something I'm writing. I'll start on some simple task, spot something else that needs doing in the flat, and end up forgetting what I was supposed to be getting on with.

Plus, standing up for unitasking isn't always that sexy. As a freelancer and blogger, I've got peer support behind me; I've read dozens of blog posts about focus, productivity and avoiding distractions. But two years ago, when I was working in technical support and testing, interruptions were constant. We were supposed to reply to all forum postings within an hour, making it difficult to work on sustained tasks. Waiting for files to upload, download or compile in various ways also meant that attention had to be fractured.

And I can see why multitasking is attractive. We want to make the most of every hour. We're pressured – by work, by the media, even by our families – to keep cramming in more. We hate to admit the simple, obvious truth: that whatever we do, there are only 24 hours in the day, and we can only truly focus on one task at any one time.

Writing Needs to be Unitasked

I'm a writer. In a typical work day, I'll produce somewhere upwards of 4,000 words – some mingling of blog posts, fiction, and ebooks in progress. I'd bet that, though you might not be a writer, some percentage of your work or your personal projects involve writing.

Here's the truth, though. It's simply not possible to write a blog post and check your email at the same time. While I'm writing this post, if I decide to see what's happening on Twitter, or check my email, I have to stop typing and switch windows. I'm no longer writing.

(In fact, in a moment of vivid unitasking example, I had to stop mid-sentence there to talk to my fiancé about our plans for an evening meal…)

If I'm interrupted – or if I interrupt myself – in the middle of a train of thought, I might even forget what was coming next when I get back to the material.

I know from experience that if I break my flow to check emails, to tidy up, to open the post or do some other distracting task, it's harder to get back into what I'm writing. I lose time on the transitions – Charlie Gilkey calls this "cognitive overhead" (a brilliant phrase) – the price you pay each time you switch task.

So how do I maintain my focus when writing?

#1 – Limit Your Projects

On a big level, try to limit the number of different projects, goals or commitments you have.

I find that it's easiest to stay focused when I don't have too many writing projects. This lets me spend large chunks of time each week on one single project. All too often, I have too many projects running concurrently (I have to admit that this month would be a good example!) This can lead to fractured attention, with my thoughts darting to different projects instead of staying on the one at hand.

If this is a particular issue for you, you may enjoy a piece I've written on Meeting Your Goals: Getting Focused.

#2 – One Thing At A Time

On a daily level, I prioritize what I'm working on by picking three or four things to do in order. Today, for instance, I wrote a blog post for Diet Blog, then a post for my own blog Aliventures, a post for You on a Diet, and only then did I let myself open my email!

If you have a long to-do list, it's easy to jump about from task to task. Make a definite decision about what you're doing first, second and third, then tackle them in that order – and don't move on until each is complete.

#3 – Remove Distractions

Some bloggers write directly into a browser window. I use Word – because having a browser open makes it just too tempting to pull up extra tabs. When I'm writing my novel, I always use a program called DarkRoom. It's a full-screen program, so I have nothing at all in front of me except the text I'm working on.

If you're really struggling to maintain focus on one thing and one thing alone:

  • Switch off your internet connection.
  • Work in a library or coffee shop, or take your laptop into an empty room at work.
  • Set a timer for 10 (or 20 or 30) minutes, and tell yourself you'll focus on the task at hand until the buzzer goes.
  • Use pen and paper, or read a printed book or journal rather than an ebook – and notice how different the quality of your concentration is.

If, like me, you grew up in a world of computers and mobile phones, you'll probably find that unitasking feels weird. Perhaps not quite as weird as unicycling, but odd all the same. Keep at it, and don't worry if you fall down a few times. Just pick yourself up again: it will get easier.

(And share your tips in the comments!)

Hay House, Inc.

Why Unitasking Might Seem as Challenging as Unicycling


Monday, January 4, 2010

A 12-Month Plan to Have an Amazing 2010 | The BridgeMaker

A 12-Month Plan to Have an Amazing 2010 | The BridgeMaker


A 12-Month Plan to Have an Amazing 2010

Posted: 04 Jan 2010 06:07 AM PST

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For last year’s words belong to last year’s language and next year’s words await another voice. And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

Article written by Alex Blackwell. Connect with me on Facebook.

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2010 will be an amazing year. This year my plan is keep the hope of a new year alive for more than just one month. In 2010 I will use the power, and the promise, of each new month to build momentum and sustain my commitment to the New Year resolutions I made a few days ago.

In previous years, most of my resolutions failed because there was never a real plan to support them. My intentions were good during the first few days of January, however, by mid to late-January I found my resolutions begin to fade away into the usual areas of being too busy, too overwhelmed and, to be honest, too scared that I might actually achieve one or two of them.

But this year will be different because as I look to the months ahead I see a blank slate that will reset itself every 30 days. New resolutions will be written monthly. Reframing my resolutions from big, almost overwhelming commitments and to more manageable, incremental and measurable ones will make 2010 an incredible year.

I think 2010 will be amazing because this approach will give me a better chance of keeping the promises I make to myself. And I think keeping more of my promises will feel pretty amazing, too.

January | Acknowledge and expect

My resolution in January is to take an honest inventory of the different areas in my life, such as marital, parental, occupational, spiritual and financial, and then decide what new promises, new changes, I can make that will turn the ordinary into the amazing.

The past several days have been spent on this discernment. I know now I am resolved to experience more love and less anxiety; to throw away what's next not working and replace these broken things with new experiences and to get "back to the basics" of just being happier more often.

The other important resolution I have made this month is to believe that good things will happen for me. Expecting good things to happen is not the same as wishful thinking. Instead, it's about finding the inner confidence to realize I am worthy of receiving my heart's desire.

February | Allow love

My resolution for February will be to allow more love into my life. While it's true I'm fortunate to have love exist in my life, there is an opportunity to improve how I love myself. Often, I give what I have to everyone else, while keeping little for myself. 2010 will be the year I will no longer settle for anything less than what I deserve.

March | Throw out what's not working

March is a good time to think about spring cleaning and the need to throw out the clutter accumulated over the months and years. Like my house, I have collected some things that are no longer serving their purpose. Things like not using my voice to express my worth have gotten a little frayed and worn around the edges. It's time to replace my timid voice with a stronger one.

April | Let it rain

The rejuvenating spring rains bring new life, and hope, to things of the Earth. My soul, for now, is of this Earth, too. April will be a good time to allow His rain to wash over me and release any remaining bitterness on the first year anniversary of my mother's death. The resentment we allow to brew in our souls only keeps us from tasting the sweetness of grace.

May | Enjoy what I have

The long, cold winter finally loses its grip in May. The trees confidently show their new leaves and the flowers win-over the frozen soil and strut upward for all to see. Both are reminders to stop and appreciate what continues to grow in my life – my sense of self, my relationships with my children and my marriage.

June | Make time work for me

June owns the longest day. On this day, the sun is up earlier and sets later than any other day of the year. My resolution in June is to make better use of the time I have been given. I will focus on greeting all of my remaining sunrises with sweeter anticipation and will replace regret with contentment as I watch the sun gracefully fall in the western sky.

July | Taste freedom

In the United States we celebrate our freedom on July 4th. The day after is my birthday. This July I promise to emancipate myself from the self doubt that has lingered over me for too long. I will move confidently into the direction my heart is urging me to go. I don't think I could give myself a better birthday present or find a more appropriate way to honor the independence of my country than by committing to be free, too.

August | Remember to rest

It takes effort providing for others and living in a sometimes complicated and stressful world. The hot, lazy days of August will be the perfect time to commit to easing off the gas pedal a little more often and remembering to rest along the way.

September | Back to the basics

September sees my children returning to college and school and the usual everyday schedule being restored. This month will provide the awareness for me to remember that when I stay within myself and do the simple, basic things in life I am happier. For me, the basics include surrendering my anxiety for trust; remembering to "just be," and loving myself a little more each day. All are basic concepts but with potential life-changing results.

October | Change something

I love the fall and the beautiful leaves that begin to change from green to gold, red and orange. The fall is a time to take an inventory and see what changes I am willing to make. In October, I will resolve to let go of what's holding me back and begin to understand a little better that if I want to get to where I want to go, then I have to make some difficult decisions along the way. And I will have to change, too.

November | Be thankful

My resolution in November will be to become more thankful – more thankful of the resources I have been forgiven; more thankful of my talents and more thankful to have this time to live, love and learn.

December | Learn to receive

Sometimes it can be difficult to receive a compliment or allow someone to do something nice for me. I can be a good giver, but a lousy receiver. This character trait often causes tension in my interpersonal relationships and keeps me from receiving a gift prepared especially for me. My promise in December will be to become a bit more vulnerable when a gift is offered and embrace the gesture with a sense of worthiness.

Join me during this amazing year

I would love to hear some of your resolutions for 2010. Please consider sharing in Comments below.

The promises we make are more likely to come true when we share them or write about them. I will provide updates about my year-long resolutions at the end of each month. I'm looking forward to sharing this journey with you.

Here's to 2010 and to the promise it will be an amazing year for us all.

Hay House, Inc.

A 12-Month Plan to Have an Amazing 2010