Thursday, September 30, 2010

10 Free Ways to Support The BridgeMaker | The BridgeMaker

10 Free Ways to Support The BridgeMaker | The BridgeMaker


10 Free Ways to Support The BridgeMaker

Posted: 29 Sep 2010 05:29 PM PDT

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Monday, September 27, 2010

15 Ways to Feed Your Creativity | The BridgeMaker

15 Ways to Feed Your Creativity | The BridgeMaker


15 Ways to Feed Your Creativity

Posted: 26 Sep 2010 11:57 AM PDT

I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free. – Michelangelo

Creativity is a fickle thing. It can ebb and flow and sometimes it can simply dry up. Creativity is a prized resource for problem solvers, artists, and for folks just like you and me who could use a dose of inspiration from time to time to find new, exciting ways to live.

While there isn't one approach that will increase your levels of creativity, there are certain actions you can take that will cultivate it. If you find yourself stuck with how to talk with your teenager, or can't decide what color to paint your kitchen, or if you are experiencing writer's block, consider these 15 ways to feed your creativity.

  1. Show off what you create.
    Creativity can be stimulated by encouragement. If you are a painter, reveal your work. If you are a businessperson, share your latest Gantt chart or PowerPoint presentation. Showcase your best work to receive inspiring compliments. Allow this encouragement to give your creativity a boost.
  2. Feed it.
    Take in what makes you creative. Writers > read books or blogs; Musicians > listen to music; Salespeople > attend seminars; Parents > talk with other parents. Hook your creativity receptors to sources that will give it the best chance of being re-energized.
  3. Make time to be creative.
    A busy schedule with little time to feed your creativity is a recipe for dullness. Consider waking up ten minutes earlier to read inspiring material or reach for a paint brush instead of the television's remote control. Creativity, like other forms of life, needs time to grow.
  4. Celebrate your creativity.
    What you pay attention to grows. If you need a shot of creativity then put a spotlight on it. Go back and look at something you built using your amazing creative talent. Honor it, brag about it and enjoy it.
  5. Don't expect perfection.
    Being creative isn't about being perfect; it's about following your heart and being inspired by your vision. Creativity is about taking chances, pushing the envelope and being okay with making mistakes along the way. Creativity can't be done perfectly; but it can be done with heart and soul – and there's tremendous value in that.
  6. When something is working, stay with it!
    Southerners in the United States believe, "If it ain't broke, don't fix it." There is practical wisdom in this adage. If you have a particular habit or ritual that is feeding your creativity then stay with it as long as it is benefiting you. Why change for the sake of change?
  7. Listen to music
    Music is an effective stimulant. It can get your blood pumping and your brain thinking. When I write, I grabbed my iPod earphones and insert them into my laptop. I enjoy almost-commercial-free internet radio stations like Pandora (limited free membership) and AOL Radio (always free; but with more commercials). Let the music take you from the busyness and to place where it's just you and your creativity.
  8. Make lists.
    Make your plan and work your plan. Often when the path has been defined, and you know where you are going, it's easier to relax and let the creative juices flow. Make lists of the things you want to accomplish and the resources needed. Double-check these lists and then put them aside. Your lists may create the foundation; but your creativity creates the spirit.
  9. Use paper and pencil.
    Sometimes going "old school" can take you back to your roots – and back to your creativity. Close the laptop, put down the Smartphone and grab an old-fashioned Big Chief tablet along with a yellow #2 pencil and let your thoughts rip. Doodle, draw circles, or jot down notes. Your brain, and the creativity in it, will respond in amazing ways.
  10. Carry an idea notebook.
    Inspiration is not on a schedule. It can be found anyplace and at anytime. Be ready with a small memo pad in your pocket to capture inspiration when it surprises you.
  11. The three "Es"
    Exercise is the first of three "Es" that will jump start your creativity. Clearly exercise is good for increasing your fitness level and it's good for elevating your mood, too. Exercise is responsible for releasing the second "E," endorphins. These hormone-like substances create the "runner's high," leading to the third, "E," euphoria. On the days when your creativity seems stalled, take a brisk walk and your mind will be revived again.
  12. Put the bottle down.
    Though alcohol may put you in a state of relaxation, it's actually a depressant and if too much is consumed it will actually suppressed creativity. So, pour a glass of wine for the evening and then retire the bottle.
  13. Work in your beautiful place.
    Beauty is eye candy for the mind. Find your beautiful place and take in its sights, sounds and smells. Consider your favorite room, a garden or a warm coffee shop and plant yourself there to trigger a flow of newfound creativity.
  14. Set a deadline.
    Setting deadlines can have a positive effect on creativity. Rather than looking at deadlines as pressure, view them as opportunities to promote your work. Get charged up by considering how your project will be received. Set a reasonable deadline and then celebrate its completion by feeling good with what you created.
  15. Don't give up.
    The temptation to quit is strongest the day before you realize your dream. Believe the achievement of your dream will make a difference. Use this fact as motivation when the doubt grows louder. Your purpose, your creativity, is uniquely yours. After all, you were created to make a difference like no else can.
  16. How do you feed your creativity?

    Please share your ideas in Comments below. Email subscribers: Click here to go to the page to share your comments.

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Friday, September 24, 2010

Fairy tales in the Modern Edition - Weird Existence

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What it Looks Like Color Blindness? - Dumage

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The World’s Most Remarkable Palaces and Their Amazing Features | Quazen

The World’s Most Remarkable Palaces and Their Amazing Features | Quazen

Top 10 Most Famous and Historically Significant Tombs in the World | Socyberty

Top 10 Most Famous and Historically Significant Tombs in the World | Socyberty

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World's Most Impressive Roadside Attractions

15 World’s Most Notable Bridges: Architectural and Engineering Feats

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10 Architectural Landmarks: World's Best Tourist Attractions

Top 10 Most Amazing Caves of our World

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Thursday, September 23, 2010

Light Up the Sky with Your Amazing Power | The BridgeMaker

Light Up the Sky with Your Amazing Power | The BridgeMaker


Light Up the Sky with Your Amazing Power

Posted: 22 Sep 2010 02:14 PM PDT

The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. – Alice Walker

The sun waits for you every morning.

Before filling the sky with bursts of orange, yellow and red it looks to see if you are on the way. The sun hovers beneath the horizon until you are ready. Then sensing your presence, it begins to inch its way higher into the sky.

You light up the sky with your amazing power. The sun simply soaks it in for the world to see.

The power in you offers love, provides encouragement, and finds forgiveness. Your power opens doors, takes down walls, and allows access to a beautiful world. Your amazing power changes lives – including your own.

A faithful surrender

My power hasn't felt amazing lately.

The past several weeks have been difficult. The effort behind launching my new eBook while trying to maintain my regular commitments has left me uninspired and worn out. I have put too much on my plate and its fullness has left me feeling dull, unfocused and lethargic.

I hit the wall and rather than going through it, I bounced off of it and landed right on my ass. It has been frustrating going to bed exhausted only to wake up feeling raw and tired. There have even been moments of panic when I thought my power was being destroyed and it would never return to its full strength.

"What if I can't regain my strength, my passion?" I thought. "What if my creativity has vanished forever?' And then the most crippling thought started its taunting:

What if everything I have been working so hard to achieve vanishes in the blink of an eye?

Now in retrospect, I understand when my mind becomes as tired as my body, the first thing that goes is my rational thinking

So, this past weekend I had no choice but to surrender. I knew I had to shut it down and do as little as possible. No matter how hard I resisted, my reserve supply had become depleted and my tank had been emptied.

It was like seeing a truck cross the dividing line in the highway before plowing head first into an unsuspecting car. You see it. You know a crash is about to happen; but you are powerless to stop it from happening.

A faithful surrender became my only choice. Faithful in the sense I wasn't giving up; I was just listening to what my body was telling me. Sometimes surrendering can be the biggest testament to our faith. I didn't know how long it would take me to recover; I just knew I had to yield and then believe my power would come back.

The way to recovery

I spent the weekend not in a writing mode, but in a recuperating mode. Mary Beth and I were able to steal a dinner together Friday night, followed by a weekend that involved catching a movie, knocking out a few home projects and watching plenty of football on Sunday.

The 48 hours brought rest and they brought peace of mind, too. By stepping away from the urgency of getting things down, I was able to find clarity. By Sunday evening, I felt my energy returning. It was reassuring how the negative thoughts were slowly being replaced by more positive ones.

During this period of surrender, I realized there were five important lessons that were helping to restore my power. I hope you find value in these lessons when you are experiencing a power loss, too:

  1. Reflect on what you know
    Look at your past. Appreciate what you have accomplished and the power it took to achieve those things. As we grow older our power doesn't diminish, it actually increases because it is fueled by the knowledge gained along the way.
  2. Be still and listen
    You can't change what you don't acknowledge. Recognize your fears and their origin. For me, my fears come from a place of self-doubt and insecurity. When I sit in stillness and listen to what's happening inside of me, the truth begins to drown out the fear. Stillness allows me to connect to the part of my mind that is often neglected during busier times. Stillness brings the power of awareness and then healing.
  3. Follow your heart
    Passion, love and energy doesn't have to be an all or nothing proposition. When you feel discouraged, try following your passion for just one hour a day. Celebrate what you accomplish in that hour. Before long, you will find the energy to follow your passion longer as your power grows stronger.
  4. Show kindness
    Kindness is the great rejuvenator. Kindness heals and covers the ugliness with love and care. Show yourself kindness, first. Agree to be human and leave your superhero cape at the door. Give mercy to the part of you that is feeling weak. Believe that humility in your weakness is a sign of great resolve – and power.
  5. The one truth about power
    Power is fleeting. On some days it feels strong and other days it feels like it barely exists. But on all days know this one truth about your power: Only you can give your power away. No one can take it from you. Your weakest moments can generate the greatest amount of power when you make the choice to hold your power close.

The sun also rises – for me

I went to bed Sunday night feeling better. It was like the reset button for my mind and body had been tripped. Though I didn't write a single word over the weekend, I felt peaceful and centered. My faithful surrendering was a sign of my power after all. I was just too tired to realize it sooner.

I closed my eyes and found the stillness once again. My mind was strong enough to ignore the doubts and hear the truth. What I've been working so hard to accomplish isn't going to vanish in the blink of an eye. The truck was able to veer off just in time. The car is safe to continue its journey.

I feel asleep knowing the sun would wait for me in the morning. It watched over me and waited until I opened my eyes. In that moment, I saw love light up the darkness as my amazing power welcomed me back.

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Monday, September 20, 2010

The Secret to Life in One Sentence or Less | The BridgeMaker

The Secret to Life in One Sentence or Less | The BridgeMaker


The Secret to Life in One Sentence or Less

Posted: 18 Sep 2010 09:44 PM PDT

A life lived in love will never be dull. – Leo Buscaglia

The secret to life can't be found in a book, a song or on a mountain top. The secret to life is found in each one of us. It's a simple understanding of what brings happiness, purpose and love. Our personal secrets are waiting to be exposed and willing be to be shared.

In the book The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die, author John Izzo interviewed over 200 individuals in order to discover the stories of these people and to learn the secrets of life. The people interviewed ranged in age from 59 – 105, each of whom were identified by friends and acquaintances as "the one person they knew who had found happiness and meaning."

I often return to the book to re-read their stories and to continue learning how to take their advice to heart. The following sentences from these interviews resonate with me the most because they are complete with the kind of philosophy, inspiration and wisdom that is both practical and undeniable.

These nuggets of truth are both comforting and helpful when Life gives you a surprise pop-quiz and you find yourself looking for some answers:

  • Find your passion and pursue it. – Lea Williams, author and educator, 58
  • There are ten-minute funeral lines and ten-hour funeral lines. Live your life so that when you die people will want to stay and tell stories about the kind of life you lived and how you touched them. – Ken Krambeer, town barber, 64
  • Love someone deeply and be loved by someone deeply; be passionate about yourself and your curiosity and exploration and really GO FOR IT. – William Hawfiled, 64
  • Always see the good in people, and you won't get hurt because everybody has so much goodness in them. Don't envy other people, because you have different gifts and blessings. – Eileen Lindesay, 78
  • In order to find a more purposeful life you must let go of what society and people think of you and look inside yourself through some discipline – prayer, meditation, to find out what matters most to you and pursue it. James Autry, poet and author, 73
  • Banish the word "boredom" from your vocabulary, and wherever you are, make the most of that moment because you won't get it back. – Max Wyman
  • Remember you are part of something larger than yourself. – Antony Holland, 86
  • Find something you love doing and make it your career. – Paul Hersey, 76
  • Learn to step out of the boot more. – Don, 78
  • Live everyday for what it is, don't worry about what will happen, the next day will take care of itself, what will be will be, learn to accept and wait for the next day to happen. – Ester, 89
  • Never dwell on the negative in your life, bad things happen all the time, even in bad situations look for the good and you will find it. – Rufus Riggs, 63
  • Live your passion and be of service to others. – Laura Lowe, 61
  • Get an education, find out who you are, where you came from and where you want to go, and don't forget who you are. – Ralph Dick, native chief, 66
  • You need to learn who you are inside, figure out what your feelings are, understand that; the key to self-knowledge. If you know who you are, then you are grounded throughout life. If everything is a mystery to you, then you are going to be in trouble. – Mark Sherkow, 60
  • Don't draw the curtain too soon; there is always an encore or fourth act. – Joci James, 79
  • Know thy self and have the courage to follow that. – Clive Martin, 65
  • Be kind to yourself and to others; you can't go wrong that way. – Mary, 87
  • Choose to have a happy life. If you want to focus on what is wrong, then so be it. Or you can focus on the lily in front yard that opened today and you get to see it today, it's what you focus on that counts. – Tony, 66
  • Follow your heart and become the person you want to be in the world. – Bob Peart, biologist and activist, 59
  • Have the disciple to listen to your heart, and then have the courage to follow. – Ron Polack, healer of energies, 72
  • Find your path and be true to it. – William Bridges, author, 73
  • Stay busy; never be bored; always find five more things to do. -Lucy, nurse, 101
  • Love what you and do what you love. – Darlene Burcham, 62
  • Dive in with both feet, roll up your sleeves and get messy, dare to live, dare to love, dare to connect. – Carolyn Mann, 67
  • Love yourself and the rest will follow. – Jeannie Runnalls, 57
  • Don't be ruled by fear. – Felisa Cheng, 65
  • Do good if you can to every person you meet, but always do no harm. – Bansi Gandhi, 63
  • Don't sweat the small stuff. – John Smith, 82

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Thursday, September 16, 2010

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Relentless Affirmation: Life on Your Terms | The BridgeMaker

Relentless Affirmation: Life on Your Terms | The BridgeMaker


Relentless Affirmation: Life on Your Terms

Posted: 15 Sep 2010 06:06 PM PDT

I see the potential for a new world being born in front of me and all around me, and I feel the only way to bring that potential into being is to know myself. – Gary Zukav

Article written by BridgeMaker contributor Lorraine Cohen. Please visit her at Powerfull Living.

If you've worked with affirmations, you may have started with the notion of "Fake it until you make it." Many people swear by the use of affirmations to change the way they think and feel.

So, what is an affirmation?

Affirmations are positive statements you write and say out loud, often repeatedly, to override an existing negatively charged thought or feeling. People use affirmations to change a belief through repetition.

You've probably heard that to change a belief or a behavior takes 21 days and it's important to "feel" the affirmation so it begins to become "truth." Being consistent and infusing the statements with positive emotional energy is key to shifting the belief.

Frankly, I have never been an advocate of using affirmations to create permanent shifts in beliefs and behaviors. Affirmations are a great tool that has merit; but they work with our conscious mind.

Our subconscious controls most (some believe about 96%) of what we believe which affects what we do or don't do. I see affirmations as a way of tricking ourselves into believing something new. However, affirmations don't go deep enough to affect the subconscious no matter how many times we attempt to retrain our mind.

And the idea that we are flawed, broken and in need of fixing keeps us in an ongoing state of discontentment that separates us from our Divinity. So, how can we create shifts in perspective that have a more meaningful transformation impact?

Live on your terms

In a recent conversation with a close friend about having more freedom, joy, and abundance, I was surprised when she mentioned using affirmations. After we shared our individual perspective of affirmations, we realized we were speaking about two different things.

She's been working with a therapist and coach for a number of years who coined the phrase "Relentless Affirmation." She describes him as a person who lives his life on his own terms. Every day he does what brings him joy and pleasure. His life is rich and peaceful because he is aligned with his Essential Self (his true nature, Source, Soul). He does no marketing and his practice has been flourishing for years.

Amazing, right?

Relentless Affirmation means creating a positive statement based on a truth you have come to recognize. It becomes powerful when you embody it – as a way of being every day.

The affirmations are not based on something you wish to be true; rather they are founded on a solid knowingness, an unshakeable trust and peace that comes from within. You know what you know, period. No discussion, no need for proof and ongoing evidence. It just is.

Below are a few statements my friend has shared with me that reflect some of her relentless affirmations.

Everything is loving, guiding, and nurturing me. Everything & everyone prospers me. I am supported day by day. Abundance flows to me in all shapes and forms including money.

My close friend has come to know, absent of any doubt, that these affirmations are true for her through her personal transformational healing journey and commitment to her soul path. Her affirmations are rooted in what she has come to trust as truth from her life experiences and what she has remembers through her own spiritual awakening.

Be the hero of your life story

I really resonate with her relentless affirmations. I have come to believe the Universe is a friendly place that continually conspires in my favor to have a more prosperous and happy life.

One of the ways I have come to know this is because I recognize the evidence of my answered prayers and desires and I credit the Universe for those blessings and gifts (even the ones I created unconsciously).

Because I also believe that everyone and everything I experience is in service to my (our) growth and evolution! Knowing this is a powerful way to shift from feeling like a victim of circumstances to the hero of your life story.

Knowledge comes through our ego and our mind from life experiences. Inner knowing comes from our soul.

With all the changes happening in the world and the ones you are experiencing personally, working with relentless affirmations can be a powerful attitude shifting, life changing way to shift from negative thinking to living with more joy and abundance.

So, what have you come to believe and know is absolutely true for you?

What have you come to trust no matter what is happening in your life?

What gives you courage and faith that things are unfolding for your best and highest good?

If you fully embraced what you know is true for you, how would your life change?

What would be possible for you?

For example: Would you have more joy, prosperity, peace of mind….? Would you be doing the same work or something more aligned with your life purpose? Would your relationships be more loving and richer?

What if….?

You came into this life with EVERYTHING you need to fulfill your life purpose and to be happy and prosperous.

I'm reminded of a distinction written by T. Harv Eker from Secrets of the Millionaire Mind:

The difference between a declaration and an affirmation is slight, but in my mind, powerful. The definition of an affirmation is "a positive statement asserting that a goal you wish to achieve is already happening". The definition of a declaration is "to state an official intention to undertake a particular course of action or adopt a particular status.

The key words in a declaration are intention and action. Declarations carry energy to the Universe that communicates an intention to do something or be somebody.

Relentless affirmations invite you to take the declarations you desire and align what you know to be true as a way of living in harmony with your Essential Self and The Divine (God, Creator, Higher Self) every day. The choices you make and actions you take in faith, trust, and courage are very different from those made from fear, doubt, and pain.

Be willing to take those steps that feel so right, even when your head is screaming, "Are you nuts?" or "You have to be out of your mind to hear the whispers of your heart!"

The time to wake up and remember who you are is now.

Life is full of miracles.

You are a miracle.

When you have those moments of forgetfulness and your thoughts spiral into fear, doubt, and unworthiness, relentless affirmations can be your lifeline and portal back to your connection with The Divine and remembering who you are.

My friend's therapist has a very happy and prosperous life because he does what brings him joy and pleasure every day and he is aligned with who he is.

That's my invitation to you…

To chose things that make you feel vital and alive. To do things that bring you pleasure and joy – that make you feel good.

Take time daily for prayers, silent contemplation, meditation and stillness so you can hear the callings of your soul. Follow your inner nudges, trust your knowing, and have faith that life is on your side.

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Wake Up Excited about Your Work

Posted: 15 Sep 2010 08:02 AM PDT

The world needs your gifts. The world needs you to come alive. – Jonathan Mead

Getting to know other bloggers is a good perk of publishing a blog. I get inspiration, encouragement and practical advice from a group of talented people who I also consider to be my friends. Fellow blogger Jonathan Mead is one of the best – both in terms of his talent and the size of his heart.

His blog, Illuminated Mind, has an edgy, in-your-face quality that challenges its readers not to be ordinary. There is a revolutionary feel to Jonathan's work that insists the status quo should be questioned so our minds can be liberated. If you want a direct, no-nonsense approach to following your dreams, Jonathan Mead gives you that, plus much more.

Jonathan and I clearly have different styles, but our passion is the same: To empower people to have whatever they want.

I respect how Jonathan quit a good-paying job to follow his passion. Without a large audience and little internet fame, Jonathan Mead summoned the courage to pursue a career he cared about. As a result of his remarkable journey, Jonathan has developed an online course, Paid to Exist. His program provides a blueprint the rest of us can follow if we would like to get paid for following our passion , too.

I invited Jonathan to share his inspiration behind the program and discuss how you can determine if the online course might be right for you.

The BridgeMaker: What was the inspiration behind creating Paid to Exist?
Jonathan Mead: My biggest inspiration was I went through this same journey myself. I worked at a job that I wasn’t fulfilled in, and I spent the majority of my time thinking about how I could actually enjoy my work, and spend my time doing the things that made me excited. I wanted to express my passions and share my talents with the world on my own terms.

Going through my own journey and writing about it I realized that a lot of other people struggle with this too. I created Paid to Exist to help those people, and offer it as my way of giving back.

TBM: Why do you think most people stay stuck in jobs they don't love?
JM: Jobs are comfortable. Someone tells you what to do and you just show up. Following your own dreams and your own passions takes courage. You’re the one in control, and you’re the one who calls the shots.

So, it can be intimidating knowing that your success is up to you. People struggle with gaining confidence that other people will really want and value what they have to offer. But the thing is, most people stop there, they project their fears into the future, rather than making an attempt and seeing what happens. That’s why I’m constantly telling people to test their assumptions.

If you’re afraid of something, or unsure about something, test it. Take action and see what happens. That’s the only way you can know for sure if your fears are real, or imaginary. Most of the time they’re imaginary, they only exist in your head.

TBM: What are the key principles of the Paid to Exist program?
JM: Aligning your passion, unique strengths or talents, and serving others in a remarkable way. Really it comes down to those three things. If you get these right, the marketing and a lot of the other stuff tends to take care of itself.

TBM: What type of person is best-suited for this program?
JM: Someone that is dissatisfied with the status quo and the idea that work should just be a chore. Someone that wants something more, and wants work and play to be the same are also well-suited for Paid to Exist.

TBM: How does someone enroll and participate in this program?
JM: Your readers are invited to visit Paid to Exist where they can learn more about the program and decide whether or not it may be right for them.

Be who you are

The world needs your gifts. Your gifts are unique and they are aligned perfectly with your life's purpose.

If you could use a roadmap for navigating around the roadblocks that are keeping you stuck in a job that is no longer feeding your passion, then give Jonathan's program, Paid to Exist, a look. It may give you the encouragement to try something different and begin waking up excited about your work.

Monday, September 13, 2010

What’s in Your Backpack? | The BridgeMaker

What’s in Your Backpack? | The BridgeMaker


What’s in Your Backpack?

Posted: 12 Sep 2010 05:38 PM PDT

If we could learn to like ourselves, even a little, maybe our cruelties and angers might melt away. – John Steinbeck

Mary Beth and I enjoyed a movie night recently. With dinner simmering, we surfed the On Demand channel to find a movie that would have mutual appeal. Our standing compromise calls for no overly hyped-up action movies and no chick flicks. We narrowed our choices to three before deciding on Up in the Air with George Clooney.

The movie caught me by surprise. The acting was good and the script even better. The plot has George Clooney's character, Ryan Bingham, traveling across the country firing people. Bingham works for a company that specializes in this task.

When Ryan Bingham is not firing the unexpected, he has a side job as a motivational speaker. His central message of "What's in your backpack?" explores the excess baggage we sometimes carry. He believes a person's possessions and commitments can weigh them down to the point it can become impossible to move. Bingham believes we should "set our backpacks on fire" to relieve ourselves of the burden.

With no spouse, no real place to call home, and no relationship with his siblings, Clooney's character carries a very empty backpack. No doubt he speaks about what he knows.

While I don't agree with Ryan Bingham's assertion we should carry the lightest backpack possible, I do agree with the notion of acknowledging what we put into our backpacks, and then recognizing what needs to come out, can be a productive one.

The contents of my backpack change as my life changes. When I do experience change, it's healthy to look inside to see what's no longer useful and what new items might be needed next.

My college backpack

My college backpack was full of ambition. College was my ticket to a better place. I understood to taste the success I craved, I had to bear down, earn good grades and finish in four years. My life was out there waiting and a college education was the way there.

Prior to graduating, I realized my backpack had accumulated certain things that was making it difficult to carry. Between studying, going to class and holding down a full-time job, there was little time to build relationships. I had become isolated and emotionally unreachable. I was alone.

Ironically, it was on graduation day when I unpacked the loneliness, but kept the ambition, before heading to what was next.

My marriage backpack

Mary Beth came to my college graduation. With only one date behind us, I invited her and she accepted. My wife and I fell in love during the summer of 1984. We were married a year later.

Mary Beth saved me from the loneliness; but I couldn't save myself from the blinding ambition. My backpack was becoming stuffed with selfishness. Building my career was more important than raising my family. My backpack had become increasingly heavy from the long hours spent working. In a cruel twist of fate, ambition, my salvation during college, became my destruction.

In the spring of 2002, with our marriage on the brink of collapse, it was time to look inside my backpack.

What I saw was disturbing.

My breakthrough backpack

On the weekend of my 17th wedding anniversary I attended a personal formation seminar, Breakthrough. My reason for attending was to convince my wife I was capable of changing so our marriage could be restored. After the first day my reason for staying became more personal. I wanted to see if I could get rid of some old baggage. If my marriage survived the purging, then so be it.

The flap of my backpack was pulled wide open. The trainers invited me to look inside to see what had settled at the bottom and between the seams. I saw poor self esteem and unworthiness. I sifted through shame. I felt the unhappiness. It was time to throw this baggage away.

Resting the backpack between my legs, I leaned over and starting pulling out the things that were no longer serving me. Insecurity was the first to go. Guilt for not being a better son was next. Anger was more difficult. It was heavy and hard to grasp. After struggling for a few moments, the anger slipped between my fingers and fell back inside. I zipped the flap and dropped the backpack to the floor.

I leaned back and closed my eyes. Memories of witnessing my brother's accident; waiting for my mother to prepare a Thanksgiving meal that never saw the table and hearing the insults from the playground bullies filled my mind. These memories were still with me – and so was the anger.

However, the opportunity to release the anger was within my reach. All I had to do was to remove it from my backpack.

A divine rage swelled inside of me. I pulled back the flap, plunged my hand inside, took firm hold of the anger and made certain it saw the light of day. It was time to throw it away and replace the anger with love – with self-love.

My open backpack

It's been seven years since the Breakthrough seminar. I still have my backpack, but the flap has been permanently removed. This feels more comfortable because now I can see what things are taking up space and what things are providing value.

I can see forgiveness – both given and received. I can rummage through the backpack and come out with what's good in life and then celebrate that.

It's amazing how much space anger can take. With it removed, I have more space in my heart for passion, happiness and love. I pack these things everyday and take them with me everywhere I go. They seem to be taking on a life of their own – all I have to do is to make sure the backpack remains open so they have the room to grow.

What's in my backpack?

Faith.

I have faith I will continue to pack the right things for the rest of the journey. I have faith I will realize when something is no longer serving me and I will replace it with something better. I have faith the remnants of anger will be easier to grasp as I get better at recognizing its signs.

What's in your backpack?

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