Saturday, January 30, 2010

How to Avoid Mealtime Multitasking Mania | The BridgeMaker

How to Avoid Mealtime Multitasking Mania | The BridgeMaker


How to Avoid Mealtime Multitasking Mania

Posted: 30 Jan 2010 04:59 AM PST

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Tell me what you eat, I’ll tell you who you are. Anthelme Brillat-Savarin

Article written by BridgeMaker contributor Paul D. Fitzgerald. Follow him on Twitter.

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I'm so ready for lunch. Let's grab a bite and we can catch up on messages and emails. Besides, I have to check in about the plans tonight.

Multitasking at mealtimes is so taken for granted in American culture that nothing in the sentence above would surprise anyone. In fact, watching someone eat a meal who does not multitask seems odd.

Next time you hear a statement similar to the one above, ask them to give you their cell phone and laptop for the duration of the meal and watch for the shocked look on their face.

What harm can it really be?

Here are four common consequences and the cumulative consequences of mealtime multitasking can be quite serious:

  1. Turns eating into mindless grazing marathons where we have no real idea what we've really consumed or the quality of the taste. Some of us couldn't make a list of exactly what we've eaten today let alone yesterday.
  2. Increases the likelihood of choosing poor quality food and combinations that are filling but empty of the nutrition we need. Try walking around with a healthy salad while you check email on your mobile phone but a fat-saturated burger or hot dog works well.
  3. Results in consuming more food than we realize. We miss the "full" signal from our stomach and feel stuffed which leads to feeling lethargic when we might need our full focus after the meal.
  4. Sbotages the digestive system when we don't chew food sufficiently, making digestion more difficult than necessary. "Chew your food 32 times!" is a smart lifestyle choice.

Research shows

Guess what, there really is a correlation between the pace at which we eat and weight changes. Just this month British Medical Journal reported a study that measured the pace of eating and weight changes over 12 months in 106 referred youth age 9-17, a population generally at-risk for obesity.

A computerized method measured the rate food was taken off their plate and gave them a slow pace to match while asking for self-reports about how full they felt. At the end of the 12 months the group using the slow eating protocol had a lower gain in Body Mass Index that the control group and maintained the difference over the full 18 months of the study.

Certainly, we could question whether the results with children would be the same in the average adult. Other studies found that it was only as food moved to the lower part of the stomach that the brain received the “full” signal so eating slower allows time for that to happen and avoid overeating to feel full.

Seven Steps toward unitasking meals

  1. Breathe deeply several times and exhale slowly. Stop all other activities and allow yourself to come into the place you are going to actually eat the meal instead of where you've been or where you may be going later.
  2. Look at your food and notice the different colors, textures, smells and the way it is presented to you.
  3. Take s minute and really take in the mixture of flavors in the first bite of each kind of food before you begin chewing it. Become aware of the textures of the food. Is it tender or tough; crisp or soft.
  4. Put your eating utensil completely down on the table between each bite and become aware of the experience of chewing food completely.
  5. Reflect on the possible origin of the raw ingredients in the food, what it took to plant, harvest, transport, and prepare the food you are eating. Allow a grateful attitude toward all those whose lives have been involved in getting the food to you.
  6. Turn off or try to tune out music during the meal. Restaurants often use fast-paced music to non-verbally quicken our pace of eating so they can turn the tables over faster and make more money - at the expense of our digestion.
  7. Plan for at least a 30 minute period of quietly walking around after the meal to aid your digestion and relax to prevent indigestion.

Coming clean

I feel the need for making a confession to the readers. First let me get this out of the way: "Hi, I'm Paul and I am recovering mealtime multitasker."

This article was not written for you but for me. I wanted to see in black and white what I know in my head but struggle with internalizing in my lifestyle. Maybe you are among the masses who can identify with my challenge. In fact, it occurs to me that we could start a new support group - MMA (Mealtime Multitaskers Anonymous).

Let's get some people together over lunch or dinner sometime and talk about how we could organize it.

Footnote: “Treatment of childhood obesity by retraining eating behavior; randomized controlled trial.” www.bmj.com/cgi/content/full/340/jan05_1/b538

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How to Avoid Mealtime Multitasking Mania


Thursday, January 28, 2010

Is This As Good As It Gets? | The BridgeMaker

Is This As Good As It Gets? | The BridgeMaker


Is This As Good As It Gets?

Posted: 28 Jan 2010 03:08 AM PST

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Not life, but good life, is to be chiefly valued. - Socrates

Article written by Alex Blackwell. Connect with me on Facebook.

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When we were young the world seemed conquerable. Our dreams were big and there appeared to be no limit to who we could become or where we could go. However something happened along the way and life become more difficult than expected. Soon after, our hope started to trickle away.

It was a slow drip at first and hardly noticeable. But over time, our lost hope could fill a bucket. It is startling to see how each setback and missed opportunity added to its volume. Now holding the bucket with both hands to make sure it doesn't topple over, our souls feel drained and we ask, "Is this as good as it gets?"

The answer: It depends on you.

Along with the disappointments we experience, we are also given an equal number of opportunities to neutralize our leaking hope. However, too often we allow the size of the disappointment to grow larger than it really is. When this happens, it is tempting to throw up our hands and give up.

We give-in to the temptation to quit and allow the feeling of hope to flow out completely. We settle for what we have and stop trying to get what we want. But we do have the choice to have the life we once considered. We do have the choice to answer the question, "Is this as good as it gets?" with the answer, "No, I want more."

It's time for you

Dust off your dreams.

Let today be the start of something amazing. Begin looking at your dreams with the same wonder and confidence you had years ago.

Listen to your heart. It's saying you do have what it takes to get what you want; even if you have been a little too scared to try.

Break free.

Believe you are worth more than you feel. You do have the capacity to realize your life's dream. Find freedom from uncertainty by taking action right now. Begin by doing one thing to start moving in the direction of your heart's desire and away from the is this as good as it gets? feeling.

Tell a friend, bare your soul in prayer or shout to the world you are reclaiming a part of you that has been neglected long enough.

Exchange loss for renewal. Trade doubt for faith and permit love to flow back inside.

Let your new spirit rain down. Allow the rainstorm to continue through the night. And in the morning, feel renewed by its healing power to dream again.

When you ask, "Is this as good as it gets?" the answer depends on you.

It's time for me

Years ago I had my dreams, too. I once dreamed of being a doctor. I wanted to heal people. When it became clear medical school was not in my future, my dream shifted to becoming a writer; a novelist and at least I would be able to touch people though my words, I thought.

However, a less-than-inspiring professor in college shattered this dream when he suggested a different career path would be the more appropriate choice. Regretfully, I listened.

Somewhere between 1982 and 2010 life got in the way. Marriage to a wonderful wife while raising four fantastic children has made the past three decades go in a flash. Unlike my choice in college, I have not regretted one moment of this life. But down inside, I know there is still plenty of life left in front of me and this is not as good as it gets – there is more.

It's time to put down my bucket and begin drinking from it again. It has served as a reservoir for the last thirty years, but I don't need it to hold my dreams any longer. It's time to allow my dreams to flow back inside and fill me up with their limitless potential.

I want more. I want more contentment and peace. I want to help people while receiving some overdue self-care along the way. I want to see my spirit return with the once-realized power to go after my dreams.

"Is this as good as it gets?" Happily, the answer depends on me.

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Is This As Good As It Gets?


Thursday, January 21, 2010

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The Myth of Multitasking – How to Break an Unproductive Habit | The BridgeMaker

The Myth of Multitasking – How to Break an Unproductive Habit | The BridgeMaker


The Myth of Multitasking – How to Break an Unproductive Habit

Posted: 21 Jan 2010 03:08 AM PST

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To do two things at once is to do neither. - Publilius Syrus, Roman slave, first century B.C.

Article written by BridgeMaker contributor Mark Harrison. Mark writes at Effortless Abundance. Check out his latest book, Thirty Days to Change Your Life.

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There was a time when technology promised to free us from the burden of mundane chores and give us more time to concentrate on the important and enjoyable things in life – family, leisure, creativity. This promise of liberation sometimes seems a distant memory, and the technology that we once hoped might free us can – if we allow it – enslave us. Now, while you talk to your colleague, you can write an SMS message, check your email, twitter, and all while making a cup of coffee.

Technology has brought information – in floods. It is estimated that a weeks' worth of the New York Times contain more information that any individual in the 18th century would have come across in a lifetime.

And how do we cope with being bombarded with so much information? We 'multitask.' Except we don't 'multitask' because there is no such thing.

Some things can genuinely be done together – you can eat and watch TV, or chew gum and walk at the same time. But here we are talking about more high demand, cognitive or intellectual activities; these simply cannot occur simultaneously. What we are doing is simply switching our attention quickly from one thing to another.

The downside of 'multitasking'

So what's wrong with this rapid switching back and forth if it makes us more productive?

Actually, far from making us more productive, 'multitasking' actually harms are effectiveness. The rapid switching takes time, and when we keep switching back and forth between various tasks, there is a 'switching cost.'

First, we end up losing a lot of time. Also, when we switch back to a task, we have to recap what we've just been doing, and so 'multitasking' involves redundancy. Dave Crenshaw, business coach and author of The Myth of Multitasking, has explored the phenomenon extensively, and writes, 'You actually take much longer to accomplish things, make more mistakes and increase your stress,'

According to recent research at Stanford University, people who routinely multitask are poor at filtering out irrelevant information and have poorer short-term memory – in other words, at the skills necessary to 'multitask' successfully!

Another problem with 'multitasking' is that you can end up doing damage to your relationships. Isn't it annoying when someone you're taking to is doing something else at the same time? Doesn't it make you feel undervalued? The danger of this kind of behaviour is erosion in the quality of your relationships and this quality is, as I suppose we all know, is the cornerstone of productivity and happiness.

An understanding of the futility of 'multitasking' as a way of enhancing productivity, and an appreciation of the damage it can do, might lead you to want to try to operate in a better way. But how? 'Multitasking' is a fairly ingrained habit for many of us but, like any habit, it can be broken with a little conscious persistence.

Put technology in its place

You are not beholden to technology. It should serve you – not the other way around. I used to carry my Blackberry around and get continually interrupted by its buzzing and beeping; now I just turn it off until I'm ready to read the accumulated emails and, when I go out, I sometimes don't even bother to take it with me.

Technology can be used creatively, of course. I recently read about someone who had almost completely dropped e-mail. He had decided to use Twitter for all his communication. He set his e-mail account to send out an automatic reply telling people that he wasn't going to be checking the account any more.

This might be a bit unrealistic for many of us, but the point is that our behaviour should not be driven by the technology we use.

Focus on quality

When you switch between tasks, the quality of each outcome suffers. If you want to produce excellent work, you will need to focus. Shut out all distractions as far as possible and just get on with the job at hand.

I once read about a writer who used only a text editor for his writing – no fancy word processors with spell checks and fonts and all manner of bells and whistles to distract him. I suppose a pen and paper might have done just as well.

Accept your limitations

There are 24 hours in a day and seven days in a week – everyone gets the same. You can only do so much, so accept this. You are not super-human. Do what you can, as well as you can, one thing at a time, and then be satisfied.

Develop a schedule

Do you need to check your e-mail continually? Do you even need to check it more than once per day? You could set aside some time in the morning to go through e-mail, and then not check it again. You can apply the same idea to any number of other activities. Make a list of what you need to do and schedule a time to do them all.

See focused attention as a form of meditation

I'm sure we've all had the experience of being completely lost in something we love. When immersed in such an activity, time seems to pass unnoticed and we are so focused on the task at hand that nothing else seems to impinge on us. I've often found myself reading a good book for so long that I suddenly realise that darkness has fallen and I can barely see the words on the page.

This is the very opposite of multitasking – our attention becomes deep and enjoyment and the outcome of our work are greatly improved.

With a little persistence, and a commitment to quality (and sanity!) we can break our addiction to 'multitasking.' We often feel pressure to live life at 'break-neck speed.' But this is not helpful or healthy – so slow down, be kind to yourself, take it easy and, perhaps to your surprise, you will be more effective.

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Monday, January 18, 2010

Finding Faith and a Message of Hope in the Unexpected | The BridgeMaker

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Finding Faith and a Message of Hope in the Unexpected

Posted: 18 Jan 2010 03:10 AM PST

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The feeling remains that God is on the journey, too. - Teresa of Avila

Article written by Alex Blackwell. Connect with me on Facebook.

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This past week an important message was delivered – be grateful for the moment we have because there is no guarantee it will be repeated. This message is not rooted in pessimism, but rather in the awareness to appreciate what we have, right now, because it can easily, and quickly, be taken away.

The earthquake in Haiti happened without warning and without mercy. The ground shook as the worst disaster of the century descended on an entire country. The powerful earthquake was unexpected and it didn't care if buildings toppled or if people were trapped underneath. On a regular Tuesday evening, thousands of people lost their lives in just a few, brief moments.

However, my faith reminds me that God creates miracles from disasters. Some suggest that God could have prevented this crisis in the first place, thus avoiding the need for any miracle. But it's not that simple. Some suggest the people in Haiti must have deserved the disaster because they were not faithful enough. Not true and, again, it's not that simple.

Disasters happen not because God causes them to happen or because we have lost our faith; bad things happen because God allows them to happen. He knows there is a greater good by allowing these types of things to happen. This realty can be too much to stomach as we watch these people suffer.

When bad things happen our faith is tested and our hope is stretched. During difficult times it is important to remember our faith doesn't give us an insurance policy against the unexpected. Instead our faith gives us an assurance policy that no matter what happens, He will never abandon us.

Perhaps the greater good in the earthquake was to remind us to appreciate each moment as if it were our last. Impatience, bitterness and selfishness seem to be on the rise lately. Sometimes as humans we need a wake-up call to grab our attention. We also need to trust His message, the earthquake in this instance, was delivered from a place of love – love for us and love for the souls who were lost.

The earthquake may have been indifferent to the damage it created, but God is not. My faith tells me He has a plan for every person impacted by this disaster and not to fear receiving this message. My faith tells me God has forsaken no one.

I see it. I feel it. I get it. The message is loud and clear and is speaking directly to my heart.

This moment, the one happening right now, is the best thing I have. I'm learning to appreciate these moments with greater energy and with a keener sense of their importance. The fact this moment is here is the best reminder I have to remember that I am alive.

Lending a hand

The people in Haiti have a long way to go before their lives return to normal. Water, food, and medicine are some of the things they need right now. If you feel called to serve and lend a hand of support, consider these resources:

Hay House, Inc.

Finding Faith and a Message of Hope in the Unexpected


Thursday, January 14, 2010

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Is Multitasking a Blessing or Sabotage? | The BridgeMaker

Is Multitasking a Blessing or Sabotage? | The BridgeMaker


Is Multitasking a Blessing or Sabotage?

Posted: 14 Jan 2010 03:09 AM PST

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If you can’t ride two horses at once, you shouldn’t be in the circus. -American Proverb

Article written by BridgeMaker contributor Lorraine Cohen. Please visit her at Powerfull Living.

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It's a New Year and you probably have been thinking about what you'd like to create, right? You might have a lot of great ideas for your business and your personal life you want to get going on NOW.

I know I do.

I have so many projects I'm juiced about and I've said to a few people that I wish I could clone myself to create five more of me so I could put my energy and attention on each one of my ideas.

And the thing is it's easy to become distracted. Sometimes we welcome distractions to avoid doing something we don't want to do or deal with. Having a natural curiosity to learn new things can get in the way of staying focused. Interruptions, too much stimulation, and weariness add to the many ways we get distracted.

One specific distraction is doing too many things at the same time. Perhaps you started doing something specific and you had an interruption and decided to stop what you were doing to handle it and then noticed something else you wanted to attend to which led to something else. And before you knew it, several hours had gone by?

A place I'm guilty of getting distracted is when I'm cleaning my house. I stop and start things in every room! I have to laugh and remember that when I'm done, things will be pulled together and sometimes I have to stop myself from creating even more of a mess.

In my work, I can become distracted by a number of things (like checking my email!) which is why having a system to interrupt potential distractions becomes important so I can attend to one thing at a time.

So, when clients ask me what I do to stay focused and avoid distractions, I use these five questions to keep me on track when I feel the urge to do some multitasking:

  1. Is it urgent?
  2. Does it have to be done NOW?
  3. Is this the best use of my time and energy?
  4. Is this moving me towards or away from what I want (priorities, goals, vision)?
  5. If I say yes, what am I willing to give up?

If you are challenged to stay on track, here are nine tips to manage your distractions:

  1. If you've been working hard and feel like playing hooky, it's OK to take a break from your work. Even short breaks of 15 minutes every 3-4 hours just to do something else can make a big difference is regaining focus.
  2. Schedule some play times to relax and have some fun. Nurturing yourself regularly will help you stay focused. Remember to celebrate your big and small successes.
  3. Are you a morning person or a night person? Plan your daily activities when your energies are most conducive to the tasks at hand. In other words, if you are at your best in the morning, you might schedule important meetings, prospect calls, or write proposals before noon rather than mid-day or late afternoon when your energy is waning.
  4. When your thoughts begin to wander (and you notice it) get up and move around. Activity of some kind will bring you back to the present.
  5. Get clear on your intentions and the results you want. Have you chosen the right goals - ones that excite you to action? If not, you will be more easily distracted.
  6. Your projects might be too big to tackle at once. Break your actions into smaller steps. Feeling overwhelmed can create distractions.
  7. Begin de-cluttering. Schedule time each day to deal with things that have been piling up. Be willing to delegate some tasks to others instead of trying to do it all.
  8. If you do get distracted, suspend your judgments. Beating yourself up and getting down on yourself is unproductive. Recognize your distraction as a sign that something is off in your life. Use that information to help you move forward in ways that create more ease in your life and move you towards what you want.
  9. On additional thing I do each morning is write down 4-6 must-dos in my calendar. I've made a promise to myself that I will not close my office until I complete those tasks for each day. It's a simple system that keeps me in integrity with keeping my agreements. (yes, I do have some late nights sometimes! LOL)

Clearing Your Plate

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck or do you find yourself procrastinating? Do you typically load your plate by taking on too much and expect to handle it all? Are your goals realistic or a bit too ambitious?

There are times when tipping over your plate and letting things drop so that you can start over is the best choice.

Consider eliminating all goals for 30 days and slowly add back selected old ones plus new ones. Use this 30 day period to delegate, dump, finish, or streamline areas of your business or personal life:

  • Make a list of everything that is undone or not progressing the way you want. Include things you feel pressured about or anything your feel you should, could, have to, or ought to do. Add all goals, projects, roles, routines, and things you consider both minor and essential to your life.
  • Drop 50% of the items on this list permanently. Yup, you heard me. Creating space to re-evaluate what you really want allows you to make a clear decision about what you choose to add back into your life.
  • Deliberately reduce the emotional or time invested in the remaining 50% so that you have some "you" time and space for self –care, re-energizing, having fun…..
  • Slowly add only the items back that you really want.
  • Clearing your plate of all goals, promises, shoulds, have tos..etc for a brief period creates the room to focus on what you really want rather than what you think you should want or do.

Bottom line: Choosing this strategy can be a great way to realign priorities and assist you in having more ease in your life. Doing a clean sweep can jumpstart enthusiasm and motivation when focused on the things you deeply desire and choose to pursue. This can be a fun process that supports you in working smarter rather than harder.

It's a New Year! Create a great one on your own terms.

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