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Monday, October 26, 2009
Four Characteristics of Success | The BridgeMaker
Four Characteristics of Success | The BridgeMaker |
| Four Characteristics of Success Posted: 25 Oct 2009 10:47 PM PDT
Article written by Alex Blackwell. Connect with me on Facebook. Look deep. Are you doing the things you need to do on a consistent basis in order to get the results you want to get? No matter if your goals are personal or professional in nature; there are four characteristics of success that will help you find what you are looking for in life. From becoming a better parent or spouse, to finding more success at work, these attributes provide a roadmap, a checklist, to help you achieve your goals, too. 1. Personal Accountability "I do what I say because I said I would do it." It all starts and ends with you. When you look into the mirror, do you like what you see? We can push away, hide, and even deny to others what we are thinking and doing, but we can never hide it for ourselves. Personal accountability is not about perfection; it's about effort. We can never be all things to all people, but we can be everything to ourselves. We can get up every morning with the attitude to focus on the things that will create a more successful and happier life and not to short-change or sabotage ourselves in the process. Listen to your inner wisdom, your gut, to see if you are on track or not – 100% of the time your inner wisdom is right. You then have a choice to make. You can choose to rationalize why you are not seeing the results you had hope to gain or you can choose to be completely honest with yourself and make the necessary adjustments to get back on track. 2. Resiliency Life will always throw you off balance. You will encounter setbacks when you were expecting success. It's not a matter of "if" this will happen, it's only a matter of "when." When disappointment and failure happens remember this: Our character is not defined by what happens to us, our character is defined by how we respond to what happens to us. 3. Interpersonal Skills We do not live in a vacuum. Even though our journeys may be our own, we cannot ignore the other people on the road with us. The ability to communicate, to ask questions of others who have achieved what you are seeking, to listen and to respond are all invaluable tools. If you are seeking a more fulfilling relationship with your partner, then how well you relate to that person will determine the success, or failure, of that relationship. Here's a good strategy to remember in order to improve your interpersonal skills: Talk less and listen more. Think of the 80/20 rule. 80% of your time should be spent listening. It is in these moments you will come to realize the true expectations of your partner or your boss, for example. Once their expectations are clearly understood, you are in a better position to meet them. 4. Continuous Learning The minute you stop learning you start to lose, or go backwards. In my life, I'm still learning how to be an effective parent and a supportive spouse. Too often, we get in the trap of saying, "I have learned how to [fill in the blank]," instead of saying, "I'm still learning how to [fill in the blank]." There is a significant difference in these statements. When we use words that end in ed, learned, accomplished, achieved, we are saying there is nothing else to learn; that we "got it." But life is dynamic and nothing is ever freeze-dried. Therefore, if we take the approach we are always in the process of learning, accomplishing and achieving, then we are in a much better position to adapt and to adjust when change and setbacks occur. Need Help?You can now connect with Alex Blackwell at LivePerson.com to receive faith-based life advice, encouragement, and personal empowerment. You are welcome to reach out to Alex via telephone, chat or email to have a meaningful discussion about the issues you are facing right now. All BridgeMaker readers receive the first 10 minutes free. Please mention "BridgeMaker" and receive ten minutes of life-changing advice at no charge. Four Characteristics of Success
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Thursday, October 22, 2009
A No-Labels Approach to Handling Change | The BridgeMaker
A No-Labels Approach to Handling Change | The BridgeMaker |
| A No-Labels Approach to Handling Change Posted: 22 Oct 2009 03:09 AM PDT
Article written by BridgeMaker contributor Paul D. Fitzgerald. Follow him on Twitter. I have a love - hate relationship with change. I feel some things change far too fast and others just don't change fast enough. Like everyone, I am bombarded with advertising on how I can improve the quality of my life by purchasing new products. Political parties promise me change and infer that positive stability will follow. We are encouraged to gain education and training that will unlock the door to a better future but find ourselves bored, if not disillusioned, by the stability of actually doing the work we sought. If successful, we often find ourselves working in positions where we yearn for freedom to change but feel trapped by the "golden handcuffs" of salaries, 401k plans, health insurance and paying off mortgages. Yet, when the job is eliminated, we look back wistfully on the stability that seems so attractive. Labeling the changes we experience as "good" and "bad" is so automatic that we are hardly conscious of it. When we experience changes we call good - winning the lottery, remission of a serious illness, finding the 'love of our life' - we move toward it almost as if to grasp it so it won't leave us. We want to hold on to it dearly and avoid change. When bad things happen to our desired stability - lost employment, divorce, illness, a falling stock market - we move against it to push it away as quickly as possible. We grieve our losses (in healthy or not-so-healthy ways) wishing we could go back to the past. I have a poor track record in accurately labeling change as good or bad. So often, what I think is going to be such a great outcome of an unexpected happening soon turns out to be anything but good. Changes I've imagined would be helpful and worked for, turn out to have unintended consequences that make me wish I'd never had the idea in the first place. At other times, when it feels like disaster is happening all around me an all seems to be lost, the most serendipitous positive results happen and I am shocked at good fortune. My experience is that I am not alone in labeling change as good or bad. Hold Your Labels of Good and Bad LightlyThis is easier said than done, but any step in that direction can bring a profound sense of peace. I am not suggesting that we cut off our emotions or deaden ourselves to the impact of change. I am suggesting that we deal with the reality of the change without labeling it as "good" or "bad" in a judgmental way. Dealing with reality calls for judgment and making decisions, but knowing what we are feeling and experiencing in the here and now is not being judgmental. If I purchase a bad-tasting meal from a restaurant my judgment tells me to not eat it. I've become judgmental if I label all their food as bad. Holding labels lightly allows us to be present to the reality of the moment. Deal with Reality, Stop Predicting How It Will Turn OutWhen significant change happen most us have an internal video of how it will play out in the future. If it is good, then the imagined next steps get better and better. If it is bad, we see it playing out like a row of dominoes falling into each other and we end up feeling that "life is over." The video rarely conforms to the reality as it actually turns out, but we experience the emotions as if it was real. Draw on Your Faith Resources So often the mental video we imagine about bad changes does not include anyone on our side of the challenge. I often ask people if their image of God was with them in the imagined future as a resource and their answer is almost always negative. It is as if they have to stand against all the negative forces alone - and they wonder why they feel panic. Unfortunately, some find their image of God is always as an antagonist in their imagined future and not as a resource at all - an indication that their faith journey needs some attention. Usually, when we can replay that imagined future with a sense of not being alone - whether it is an image of God present and/or friends and family standing with us - the story is reframed and panic is reduced. An ancient story illustrates this kind of "letting go" of labels A poor and elderly widower had little to show for his life - a son and a few horses. One night, thunder and lightning from a ferocious storm spooked the horses. They broke down the corral fence and stampeded out into the darkness. The next day, his neighbors saw his loss and expressed their sympathy for the tragic events. The old man simply responded, "We'll see." A few days later the horses found the way back to their corral and an amazing stallion came with them. Now, the man's wealth had increased substantially by this good fortune. His neighbors soon heard about his good luck and complimented him. The old man simply responded, "We'll see." The man was too old to try to break the stallion so his son attempted to ride him. After falling off several times, the horse threw him so violently that his leg was broken. There was no doctor in that area of the country so the old man had to set it as best he could. It was likely that his son would be crippled for the rest of his life. The neighbors now expressed sorrow for this travesty. Once again the only response from the old man was, "We'll see." Not long after, a marauding band of warriors came through the area and forced all the well-bodied young men to join them or die. Of course, they did not want his son with the broken leg. Through their wailing and tears, the neighbors told him how blessed he was that his son wasn't taken. His response? "We'll see." Dr. Paul Fitzgerald is a Life Coach and offers several dimensions to help clients move toward personal wholeness and create a fulfilling life. You may contact Dr. Paul at drpaul@heartconnexion.org. A No-Labels Approach to Handling Change
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Monday, October 19, 2009
22 Ways to Feel Alive Again | The BridgeMaker
22 Ways to Feel Alive Again | The BridgeMaker |
| Posted: 19 Oct 2009 03:08 AM PDT
Article written by Alex Blackwell. Connect with me on Facebook. I hit the wall last night. It doesn't happen very often, but when it does, I fall hard. The pain behind both eyes made it difficult to focus on a conversation or watch television. Finally at nine o'clock I gave up and went to bed. My body craved rest and a dose of self-care. The last ten days have been tumultuous ones. My family has been on high-alert dealing with a difficult situation and work has been equally dramatic. Adrenaline has been running through my body at a rapid pace. There comes a time when our bodies push back and shout, "No more!" I heard my body loud and clear – its voice was not to be denied. Now begins the recovery process and the chance to feel alive again. Looking back over the past week, I wish I did more to keep the hard crash from happening in the first place. But sometimes when we are in the middle of a crisis, it can be hard to lift our heads and pay attention to the warning signs. The smack I received last night serves as a valuable reminder that when we stop nurturing our bodies, they will rebel and stop working for us. When this happens, we have the responsibility to fill them up again. We can wait until it's too late (like I did) and suffer the consequences, or we can provide the needed care along the way. The following ways to feel alive again are ones that resonate with me and the results can be realized almost immediately. It is my hope I will begin learning to do more of these when I find myself feeling worn down and before my body meets the wall again. I hope you find some inspiration from this list, too:
Plus one more we need to hear as often as possible because its truth is everlastingGive yourself grace and mercy. We all make mistakes. Perhaps no one is harder on you, than you. Give yourself grace for the mistakes. Mistakes don't define your value or purpose in life. Focus on what you can today, right now; to begin feeling you deserve to have the blessings He has created for you. After all, you are worthy to receive the good fortunes of life because you are absolutely more than enough.
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